I don't think what others say (and which others say them) can be taken to mean one thing or another; the individuals saying anything have different backgrounds and motivations for saying them, all about them, the individuals doing the saying, not about the person they are talking about. No one else can say what we will, can, might, etc. do or not do or think or not think or feel or not feel because they are not us!

We can choose to use our anger to motivate ourselves or turn it on ourselves and become hopeless and depressed. It's a feeling and feelings just tell us what is going on with ourselves and we decide what to do with that information. I left home when my stepmother thoughtlessly called a harmless action of mine "stupid" one time too many because I did something in a way she would not have.