There are always problems in relationships, undoubtedly. It just depends how important the problems are to you, I believe. I think it's important for both people to be happy and the belittling is a form of abuse. I would confront her again on it and tell her it's hurting your feelings and you don't want it. You can give her some kind of ultimatum but it's important to give one you will follow through with. Like not go out with her until she stops that.

There is someone in my life who belittles me by how he treats me and I'm suffering from it, too. I am trying to keep more of a distance for self-preservation. Another thing, you don't have to do what she wants you to do in life-it's your life and your happiness. There will be someone who accepts you for you.

Once I had a significant other who would put me down for some things about me. I told him that I accept him with all of his faults and so why doesn't he accept me for mine, too? He stopped it.

You ask the question why women try and change you. Maybe she's not accepting of your needs and ways. I think that's a sign of her immaturity. Putting you down is a way to make her feel bette. That shows that she isn't so happy with herself. She may have been abused that way, too. I think counseling could help, too. But still, that doesn't give her the right to put you down! I hope you can start to work toward making your life better.

Success is the best revenge.