[QUOTE=Idealsummerluvv;2249341][COLOR=Indigo][FONT=Fixedsys]Hi,

There is a severe lack of communication between my husband and I.
And I can't seem to break thru.

When all he wants to talk about is the bills and complain about our 20 year old son- part of me shuts down.

We've been together since 1988.
I keep thinking this should be easier or else there is something really wrong with me. I know I tend to isolate anyway (I have depression). He is also a sober alcoholic with no program.

I keep thinking about how you can't get bread from a hardware store and worry that, even though he is sober- what if I can't get from him what I am trying to get?

Hope this makes sense to someone.

It does make sense although I would ask which of you is the hardware store? While you are worried about not getting from him what you are trying to get, is your husband also frustrated that you don't want to listen to him talk about the bills and his concern for his son? I can't help but think that for the two of you better communication might start with the obvious; listening to him talk about the bills and your son. I wish you and your husband the very best. I encourage you to tell him how proud you are of his sobriety.