My boyfriend says the same thing. He's worried about these thoughts, the need to talk to him and how I've tried many times. He knows the emotional hold and it's not that he's worried I'll fall back to my ex and forget him, he's just worried about my feelings. He doesn't want me to be hurt again and he's so sure that if I talk to him it'll happen again.

I never really did get closure. My ex and I always went through this thing where we'd break up and hate each other but get back together. But at that time he pretty much cut me off for a few days and came back and when he did, he came back wanting to be friends, never wanting to talk about us and always wanting to either talk about how great she was or how much she had been hurting him. There wasn't much time to talk out our feelings and let go of them (even now I hear from a mutual friend that every time I'm brought into the conversation my ex wont stop talking about me for hours).

I've done the rip up thing with a card he once sent me for Christmas, I ripped it up, burned a piece and threw it all in the trash and this made me feel like I had let go for a while, but it has all come back now.