it's so confusing cause rape isn't about the sex act, it's about the power over thing.... I'm encouraged by posts that show the cultural definition is catching up with mine!!

How a guy can tell himself it's not rape if he coerces you to submit so he won't rape you....... what does that even mean? "Ya want it easy or ya want it hard?"??? That is not a choice. Godd help me, I just don't understand how they rationalize that one....