I think it is good that you are able to be honest about this. I am assuming that as you have posted about it, that it is something that is bothering you, or something you want to change.

I can understand that seeing someone who you find attractive may increase sexual desire, but it sounds like this desire is almost overwhelming? Do you have a therapist or a doctor you can talk to about this?

As someone who has self harmed in response to overwhelming feelings and knowing how hard it can be to resist this urge, I would really encourage you to talk about your "urges" with a professional.

At the end of the day, I think this site should be a safe place to come to be honest about things that are troubling us and to get support and so I respect your openness in doing that.

I hope you can get some face to face support with this.

Take care - Soup