While I admit to not being the most feminine female on the planet, people often assume I'm a lesbian. I'm not 100% sure I'm not bisexual, but I am interested primarily in men. I haven't had a boyfriend in about a year and a half, and while I'd like to get into a serious relationship, I don't think I'm in the right place mentally for one at this point. I try to avoid any situation that could turn sexual even if I'm interested because of this. I'm sure this doesn't help the problem. If I were a lesbian, I'd be open and honest about it, so it's not that I'm "hiding" my orientation from these people. I met up with a childhood friend that I haven't seen in years a week or so ago and she told me she always thought I was a lesbian. A coworker asked me yesterday if I was a lesbian. Several other friends and acquaintances have asked me the same thing. Obviously something I'm doing is giving people this impression. I do have a lot of interests that are typically considered masculine, but I know several females that share these interests and people don't question their sexuality. Perhaps it's the way I dress? At my job I wear clothes that I don't care about getting dirty, so I'm not going to go out and buy $40 fitted shirts, etc, just to ruin them in three hours. I'm going to go and buy tshirts from Walmart or a second hand store. Almost all my friends are men, but most of my coworkers are men so I don't have many options there.

I'm not sure what to do about this. As I said, I wouldn't be ashamed or try to hide it if I were a lesbian, but I'm not. I'm not sure how to change this impression because I don't know what people are seeing that causes them to think this way. I know I shouldn't worry about what others think, but long term this could cause a problem with my dating life once I feel ready to jump into that game.