I think a lot of people get into trouble early on in relationships by not being able to tell the difference between attraction and love. I think anytime we develop strong feelings for someone who pays a lot of attention to us, the first thing we should be asking is, why? If we really don't know the person well at all, or we barely know him/her, then where are these strong feelings coming from? Maybe the divorce rate would go down significantly if we understood more about ourselves and our patterns of behavior in relationships before falling head over heels in love and then finding out -- too late, sometimes -- that it was never really love at all.