Getting rid of stuff is something I really struggle with, Faye. Something that happened accidentallyw hen we moved some years ago was that there were things I packed up into boxes and then put into a storage area in the house. A year later I found the boxes again and realised that if I hadn't searched out the contents in a year then they obviously weren't that important. But maybe you also need to recognise that there are things which are important to you and that you have a right to hang on to those things, even if you don't need them. Memories and treasures are important to us.

As to the wallowing, whining and *****ing - well, if you have worked for 9 hours today you can't accuse yourself of slacking! Give yourself a break now and again, Pat - you DO deserve it and you don't have to do everything today. Besides, you can't do anything if you make yourself ill by overdoing it. No, I'm not encouraging you to slack - just ot cut yourself some slack now and again.

Be well

C