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Originally Posted by Roadie
I don't know whether I'm respected in the matter or not, but I'm very direct when I ask for help. I don't mention that I need help in a general way. Oh no, I call up Joe & say, "Joe, I need a favor."
My friends are all the type who say that if they can ever... But I've learned that specific invitations work best with all of them.
IDK. Works for us, anyway.
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My trouble is that I can be very direct and very specific in asking for what I need. "I need X. Would you please X? Thank you." I can ask exactly that way, and keep asking, until I'm blue in the face. Yet X doesn't happen until I get mad and YELL for X to be done. And then I'm treated like a world-class b--- because I lost my temper, and why didn't I just ask nicely?
When my children were teenagers, I was advised that this was because they knew they didn't really have to move until Mom started yelling. But they aren't teenagers anymore, and it isn't just them.