(((((Jan)))))

Thank you Jan. Yes, saying no is a really hard thing for me. I am finding that talking to others about the fact that they too feel overloaded helps me to say no. My T, too, is pointing out to me that I can't meet unrealistic expectations. Deep down it comes down to challenging those schemas I have about not being good enough, about being flawed and so needing to meet all the expectations placed on me. I have to keep working at those even when I find it hard to believe that I do have the right to stand up for myself. Sometimes I can work on changing the feelings but I also have to work on changing the actions if I am going to affect those beliefs I still hold.
Thank you
C