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Originally Posted by Rapunzel
People have different resilience. Resilience comes from internal and external factors. Some people seem to be built to handle more than others, but everyone has their limits. Resilience is also taught. If you learn that you have support available and parents, friends, or someone will be there and stand by you through your troubles, you can handle more than if you believe you are all alone or someone will criticize you and tell you that you are never good enough. You can become more resilient by finding people who support you and being around them more, and by building your coping skills.
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A part of the curriculum/guidelines used as a foundation of the recreation programs i work in with children focus on resilience. Learning to trust, being around supportive & positive people, and developing coping skills - consider your reaction and response to a situation...what can help? - are important traits that children should learn. My supervisors stress that we - staff members in these programs - are in positions to be role models so we need to be able to share clearly, with all in attendance, productive ways to solve problems, communicate with others, cooperate as a team, be compassionate/caring/respectful...
Unfortunately, i think i am just NOW learning this for MYSELF... My answer to the original question is: all of those judgements, negative remarks, insults, and just "ugh!...you...*with so much distain/disgust/disappointment and
*" just break the child down. I imagine a chisel
chip, chip, chipping away at a stone structure. Gradually it is reduced to a pile of rubble. Then ground further into gravel. Then smashed further into thin grit - sand mixed with dirt and just an overall mess. And then all of the shakes and tremors - nervous, worried, PANIC - are due to the danger that always seems to be there booming and lumbering in the distance. To the point where the vibrations never, never, ever go away...
Can each of us be rebuilt? Is there any point when there is still so much danger out there? How is each of our existences valuable in creation? What about when the other shoe drops after "the good times"? How do others stand strong - or are not completely shattered 24/7? Do the *vibrations* always have to be so strong (ly felt)?
Honestly, could i still be me despite the shattered mess within; or am i really just an empty shape with a pile of broken pieces on top of a pile of grit? = Like is any of that mess even useful or worthwhile to exist in any way?
Thanks again for posting this question.............