can you talk to your husband and make sure you are on the same page, especially for future incidents, so you are not in conflict with one another (no good guy/bad guy... you both have your daughter's best interests in the end after all)?

Maybe the therapist can recommend another pdoc, one that might be more in tune with your daughter's needs?

Talk to husband and to Yaya... keeping current with the meds is going to be crucial and necessary while she is not feeling well. see if you can both convince her how important this is and maybe see the original doc again while still looking for a new one.

Make sure both of them know that med adjustments are a part of dealing with this. Sometimes people can go on perfectly fine for years on the same meds and then suddenly the body becomes "immune" to one of them. It no longer helps and the dose must be changed or a new med prescribed. Since she is not feeling well now I would think that is a very important consideration to look into. Or it could just be a change in circumstances that requires a change. The therapist might be able to help with advice on that.

You daughter is probably scared and maybe doesn't want to deal with this. She found some comfort with her dad, but if this is a trend and helps her avoid treatment it won't help her. I doubt that she's really angry with you as much as seeking solace in the comfort of dad who is right now letting her sit back and do nothing.

It shouldn't have to be an "and/or" situation, there should be a way of getting her back to the doc while still providing the comfort she needs... accompany her to the doc if that's ok with her, talk to her about it, work on finding a new doc in the meantime, etc. It is not that you don't care it is just that the "easy" solutions aren't really solutions.

Good luck.


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