honestly - I figured as much. Well maybe not dementia, but i definetly knew something was up.

She has been cutting out everything over the last couple of months, I suspect she is still drinking on the sly sometimes though.

Its really too bad. She does struggle really hard and I will not forsake her friendship as she has been really, really instrumental in supporting me when all my hulabaloo got worse.

She has a daughter and a boyfriend/commonlaw husband/whatever and he is extremely good to her and helps her out alot and makes sure her daughter is safe and ok(ie she does not get drunk with her daughter alone or put her daughter in dangerous situations) but i know it has to be hard on him, as shes been blanking out quite a bit and so needs almost constant supervision.

All good ideas though thanks.