wow. i figure you have another 5-10 years to experiment and look for another sex therapist. seriously dude, i'm not minimizing your pain. i won't decribe what i've been through sexually because it would trigger people big time, but i HAVE lived through hell, and through the grace of my higher power, i'm alive. one thing i will NEVER do or advise anyone else to do is give up. i just think the universe has bigger plans for all of us. we are meant to be happy now and in the afterlife. it's all connected.