Alright Perna, I'll rephrase that comment even though I reckon you know what I meant. I have the same mental illness as my mother. I have the fear of history repeating itself. It isn't an irrational fear- it is a real possibility. Perhaps it won't happen, but perhaps it will, and it is one of those things that you won't know until it happens.

Thanks for your long post, AAAAA. I'm sure things will all work out if it happens, but I've got a lot of time to mull it over before then! That's one of the few things I like about being a single parent in the future- my own control and no partner interfering! lol