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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Thank you for this thread, Velvet. It certainly explains my "pattern" and how I relate to my Ts. But I don't understand why the author says the "father" is the important person in this scenario, not the mother.  Sorry I don't know how to quote it my reply. |
Fathers are accredited to how we girls see and feel about ourselves as we mature. Based on their responses to us, the script is written on how we will relate to the opposite sex. (Of course this is based on the heterosexual model.)
For example, if your dad is affectionate you will seek out a similar man when you start dating. If your Dad never compliments you on your appearance you may question if boys will be attracted to you. Oversimple examples, I`m afraid! (Need coffee!) Velvet
Ok here`s a more concrete one. Let`s say your Dad is funny, elegant, gentle, supportive (yes girls can do anything!) charming, affectionate and always up for an adventure, teaches you how to make things and explains life`s lessons in a way that make sense to you*, what sort of man would you look for... A cold, distant, workaholic with substance abuse issues... Not likely!
* Based on a composite of the men who raised me before I got in with a bad crowd at age 10.