Oh my god, I'm dying right now, imagining T's face to the blowjob question!

It never really occurs to me to ask about T in our sessions. Outside of session I sometimes wonder "What is T doing right now?" or "I wonder if T likes (movie I'm watching/book I'm reading, etc)."

I guess it just feels wrong to ask him about his sex life...
It feels wrong to ask him about his life in general - like, why do I need to know that?

The only questions I really ask of my T are if I'm referencing a book or a movie. Like,

"Have you ever read The Phantom Tollboth?"

"No."

"Ok, well at the beginning of the book, it's talking about how the main character has no where that he wants to be and nothing is interesting and every time he gets to school he wishes he was at home and every time he's at home he wishes he were at school, and he's never happy, no matter what. I feel like that."

So. Yeah. That's the kind of question I ask my therapist.