I think it's important to ask T the questions that you have, even if it's regarding their sex life. Not that they would answer, they would most likely redirect and talk about sexuality, what's healthy, what most people do. But I think if it's being thought about, it needs to be talked about why that is.

I can tell you I do not answer the questions that are directed specifically at my actions. Why? Because what I do or don't do should not impact what my client does, and sometimes it does if we answer.

On the flip side, any question my inner kid has asked my T, she normalizes and they talk about why they want to know.


I definitely answer the general questions often! Sex can come up a lot in the therapy room, and people voice where they have confusion, problems with their spouse, problems with performance, uncomfortable feelings with certain acts that they want to perform, etc. We talk about why all that is, etc.