This thread is definitely interesting. It makes me not feel so alone and insane that I think about stuff like this. I want to ask her alot of personal things, but I don't. One time when were talking about sex and I wanted to deflect (take the focus off of me), I asked her, "Well, how is YOUR sex life?" I don't think she liked me saying that. Her response was, "Really? You are going to go that far to distance yourself from talking about you?"

I can't remember if that is exactly what she said, but it was similar to that. Later in the session, I came back to her response and asked her why she said that. She gave me her normal response, "This is your session. It is about YOU. Not about me. Your question to me is not going to help YOU. It is only going to keep you from working through the issues we are working on. I want you to stay focused on YOU, not on me. I am not mad or upset with you. I just want to make sure you don't keep deflecting when you get to a topic that you are uncomfortable talking about."