I don't think T has ever been angry at me, but when we had our rupture, she seemed hurt by an email I sent her. I know if I asked her, she'd deny it, but I saw the defensiveness in her face and hurt in her eyes.

She has been perturbed lately by my H. They've only met once, she thinks he's a good guy, but she feels he minimizes things for me and it frustrates her. Minimization is his style though.

That and he'd argue with a wall, which drives her crazy. Apparently that reminds her of her own H.