I think I would look at each incident in context with the whole of my current difficulties and goals in therapy. I was abused but the abuse is just the action, not how I felt about it and whether I had difficulties with it later, etc. The relationships I had/did not have were much more important in the larger scheme of things than any particular incident.

Discussing how you feel the abuse has affected you might be of more help than the actual incident report? Ts follow the emotion; if you were just reporting what happened, the response might be, "yes, that's abuse" or, "no, that's normal", informative rather than emotionally charged.