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Old Feb 27, 2012, 07:35 AM
Blondboy44 Blondboy44 is offline
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Hi Summer.

Thanks for caring. Communication with my bride of 46 years has become increasingly hard on delicate matters through the years. When we were young and she still had "hot pants" we did better at things like this. But, the years have built up a lot of "psycho-baggage" of various conflicts. It is very hard to talk to her without her flying off the handle because she thinks I am acusing her of being the whole problem. For example, when I first started having erectile dysfunction, her main concern was: Is it caused by her appearance? She got very defensive over that issue even though I was not blaming her, at least out loud.

I don't remember a lot of concern by her on what she could do and what she would be willing to do to help. If she were not so Victorian and unimaginative, she could still do a lot of things that I would enjoy immensely, like oral, manual, role-playing, being spontaneous, etc. etc.

I am very leery about meeting people online. I would not rule out a relationship if I met a suitable partner, but I would not want to try an online hookup. I have some younger women friends that I flirt around with, but I am sure they think of me as a grandpa, plus they probably already have significant others.

I very much want to find a good sex therapist and I want it to be a female. I think I could more easily share all this with a female than I could a male; just easier for to talk to I think. Thanks for your ideas.