hey, justdontask - well, i see progress. you told your brother something of a very personal nature. a few weeks ago, you believed that was impossible. so, there is progress. you have also spoken with a trusted coach and a school counselor. i admire that you recognize there is a problem and that you are doing something about it. there is still a way to go but there has definitely been progress and i am very proud of you. you have already exceeded your expectations of a few weeks ago!

the recognition of a problem and the desire to get better are so important. i am glad to see that you want to treat your problem and have a happier life. I am glad to hear that you are working yourself up to speaking with your parents. being able to motivate yourself like this is an important part of maturing and of becoming a functioning adult. all teens experience problems and need to lean on their parents for advice and emotional support at time. this is perfectly normal. you have been trying to do it all yourself and that is not fair to you. parents are supposed to protect and raise their children; instead you seem to be playing the adult and protecting your parents. from what you've revealed previously, you seem to fear their reactions. from what i know, i'd suggest you talk with your dad first. maybe even you could discuss how to tell your mom with him. don't be afraid to ask him to do it! really.

i hope you continue to make progress. you are a very important person; please don't treat others as being more important than you. your health and happiness are VERY VERY important. please continue to reach out and discuss your issues with caring people be they counselors, coaches, stepbrothers or parents. i hoped that your stepbrother showed concern for you and that your relationship with him is proving to be one of trust and growth. please keep us informed! as always, i wish you the best!