From what I read, It sounds like she needs space and some room to grow for herself, maybe away from you. My wife did the same thing a long time ago. I know this might be hard to hear but, healthy relationships need to be voluntary. I don't think there is anything you can say to change her mind about this. It sounds like she wants to decide herself. If you love her, let her decide for herself. If she leaves, love her and allow her to leave. It would be her desire, let her fulfill her needs without you, if that is what she needs to do. If you are going to be a good partner, you NEED to be able to stand on your own, without her help. Maybe that is what she wants to know, if you can stand on your own and be independant. Maybe she thinks you depend on her too much and that she can't be what you appear to her, to need. It is going to hurt, love hurts. I do know. Find support for yourself; parents, therapist, religion, hobby somthing to help ease the pain, and get on with the business of your life; work, family and the rest. Good luck, These are all just my opinions, use them at your own risk.