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Originally Posted by vanessaG
[color="Purple"]Have any of you felt your T's minimize your past?
I have read on a lot of posts of people's T's that got angry about what happened to their clients in the past (or even present) and the clients minimizing the situation and the T's trying not to minimize?
I've told some traumatizing things in the past and T remained very neutral...which is good I guess, but never like I'm so angry what they did to you....
For example I brought up an issue of SA waaaayyy back and out of the 2 incidences, one he said 'oh that's pretty normal (2kids) and the other he said 'yes that's wrong' and that's it. Also he CONSTANTlY tells me ' see that's why I think your better than you think you are!" and I've heard lil comments of how other clients some have it worse? I feel I'm in therapy for some significant issues.[
I guess it would be nice to get some validation from T that what happened WAS horrible? Idk...it almost makes me feel dumb for going to therapy for my my issues since they're all getting minimized anyways...or is this a tactic T's use that I'm unaware of?
Anyways I was curious if any other Ts minimize? And if you felt it was helpful for you or not?/COLOR]
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This is how I feel about my t now. However, it was not clearly abuse in my situation (one t called it emotional abuse). I haven't told him very specifically because whenever I mention difficulties he changes the topic or seems uninterested. I'm thinking I may stop therapy since he doesn't seem to think what I talk about matters, but I will see what happens tomorrow. I can imagine if it was serious abuse like yours, it would feel much worse if the t didn't take it seriously. I hope you can get the support you're looking for.