Being a female-to-male transsexual, and bisexual to boot, I battled my own sexuality for a long time...my reasoning was, if I expect my partner to be comfortable with my female-bodied-male-presenting self, oughtn't I extend the same courtesy and love regardless of gender or assigned sex? *The answer for me is no. *I'm attracted to people who are comfortable with their bodies as they are; as I understand (and I am open to correction) the difference between my bisexuality and another person's pansexuality is that they would not be discouraged, hurt, put off or turned off by their partner's identity vs. assigned sex.

For me this extends beyond the gender binary/spectrum to plastic surgery and society's conception of 'normal' and 'beautiful.' I can't be with someone who is not comfortable with their body, that's just what attracts me. *What bothered me was that it seemed like a condemnation from me, but I now believe that's not so.