Thank you very much Callmebj and Lee, We have had numerous talks with my husband about what he should do about his position, but no results, I dont know what is in his head, I would have gone out to do anything if I was in his place, he always had good jobs and good income (being able to afford luxury etc) which i cannot provide with my income. Another problem is that i feel like i dont love him anymore like i used to because it seems like he betrayed me in some way, I think I am just waiting to the point where my patience will dry up i guess and it wil become intolerable....