Hiya Shame,

I suppose it's different for each person. On most occasions I am just talking with my T and another voice comes out of my mouth and I feel pushed to the back. I know they (the alt and my T) are talking but I don't know what the topic is.

T's talk to alts just as they talk to anybody. They just have a conversation. If you are ready to hear what they have to say, recording the chat sounds like good advice. I would ask your T what they feel about that.

Alts with come forward when they are triggered, or feel safe. They will come out when ready. Trying to force things will be counter productive. Just relax (easy to say , hard to do). Things will happen when they happen.

Take Care,