The road to discovering what you really need from your therapist begins by exploring the intensity of your reactions when you don't get what you ask for from your therapist.

So......... I asked my T for something that I thought might make me feel safer, so I could maybe get into deeper issues, & was told hey this was easy to take care of, we'd do that next time for sure.

When next time came nothing had changed and it was obvious that T hadn't even thought about it in the interval (Read: hadn't even thought about me in the interval. Because if the thought of me had crossed her mind just once, surely my predominant safety issues would have been the first thing to come up).

My reaction when I found that this was the way it was? OH, please don't bother about that, T, it's nothing. Really. Honest. Please, just forget about it. (internally: again, that is).