>>> This is one of those times when my T would have asked me, "Are you sure I didn't think about you at all? Can you think of any other possibilities?" And then we would have come up with a list of several other possibilities that had never occurred to me because I was so certain he had forgotten about me between sessions.

Thanks, and I agree with what you're saying, but when I found that nothing had been changed I said something like, "...um... we were going to... ?" and T jumped up and said, oh that's right, I forgot.

So exploring possible other explanations was sort of out.

The quote above says, The road to discovering what you really need from your therapist begins by exploring the intensity of your reactions when you don't get what you ask for from your therapist.
and that's what I guess I need to talk to her about now. Not that she forgot - anyone can forget, I surely forget things - but how this particular forgetting comes across to me, and (ulp) why it does.

is that right? it won't be easy for me.