I think if we've not been "held" securely enough in the past and have felt let down many times, then that wound is going to be bigger than for others who have not expereinced being let down. The question could be reframed as "in what ways did I feel let down in the past"? Perhaps? As a way of helping you understand?

Perhaps you are ready to face that questioning now and actually unconsciously challenged T to forget so you could "fix" this?? Dunno, just letting me fingers hit the ole keyboard wondering.