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I have been through the exact same thing. This past November my ex of four years replaced me with someone else that she had just met online, and they are still together. I wanted to die, spent days in bed without wanting to get out, go to work, or do anything. I was extremely depressed and felt like I have never felt before in my life. I started getting panic attacks and anxiety attacks, it was horrible! However, I learned that in order to get better, I had to want to help myself because no one was going to do it for me.
The best advice that I can give you is that you need to think that she is already living her life somewhere else and you feeling the way you feel is not going to make her come back. You only have two options, you either do anything possible to try to get better, or continue to live the miserable life that you have been living these past few months. It is your choice. Stop feeling sorry for yourself! yes, it is good to let your tears out once in a while, but you cannot live life like this. Every day is a gift and you cannot waste a day thinking about a lost love. Try to look for a job, work out, read self-help books, go out with your friends, do whatever it takes to get yourself out of the hole you are in. Whenever the thought of her starts to poison you, use your imagination and picture yourself pushing her out of your heart. Remember that she is already living her life happily without you and in the mean time you are just there, wasting your time thinking about what could be or what could have been and feeling miserable. You do not want to live like that forever, do you? Show yourself that you can do the same, that you can get over her and start a new life with a new job, new aspirations, new friends, new YOU! Remember that you are the only one who can help yourself, and you feeling depressed and wasting your time is only going to make you miss out on everything that is out there.
Live one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time. Take control over your life and show yourself that you are much stronger than this. Count your blessings instead of your misfortunes. Good luck...
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