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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Yes, it's hard. And it all makes perfect sense. Almost all.
You really want something, and you know you can't have it, and it hurts. I feel that way about my own T, and a lot of us here do too.
The interesting thing is what happens next. How do we respond to wanting something we can't have?
I get angry. I sulk. I blame the person for withholding what I want.
You, on the other hand, feel like you are a horrible person.
I believe the response Ts most like to see is: "I don't always get what I want and that's OK. It does hurt, but it's a pain I can live with."
Good luck in your journey. See you there!
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Thank you for pointing this out. I am really struggling with impulses to SI since this has come up. I feel like such a bad person for feeling this way. I am so angry at myself, because I don't have the any right to these wants or needs from him. I hate myself right now. I am a horrible person to be jelous of the time he has with his family. He has given me more than enough, including time from his family answering my constant emails. I just want to punish myself for all these thoughts. T told me to try the rubber band thing to try to keep my SI'ing at ease, until he see's me on Thursday and we can work on all of this. These emotions are so awfully intense. Right now this doesn't feel like a pain I can live with.
