sakijuju,
Well, your both just 20 and that is still pretty young. This relationship stuff takes time and it is work. I respect you for seeing a therapist and doing some honest self examining. It sounds like you were trying to make up for the others that hurt her.
We cannot fix the errors of others, so you are finding out, all we can do is our best to build trust in the other person who had been hurt.

I think you're learning alot and perhaps you could write down these things you're recognizing and be honest with her. She may be confused and may just think that yet another is going to hurt her, can't blame her for that. I think you both need to sit down and have an open heart to heart discussion.

You seem like a nice consciensious guy who wants to do the right thing. I think you're taking the healthy route in facing the problem areas. Not everyone can do that, some people just blame others or themselves and don't realize that you can actually work at finding solutions.

Open Eyes