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Old Feb 28, 2012, 04:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Snuffleupagus View Post
My exT got angry at me quite a few times, and notably in our last session. We talked about how I'd be able to get more appts with my next T and not just every 6 weeks. I'd finally decided to switch Ts after I asked her for an additional appt and she responded in email. "Finally, I do not have any appointments available for you prior to that scheduled. I have no doubt you will use the time wisely. Take care." Such a cold tone for someone you've been seeing for 4 years.

Anyway, I told her I didn't know if more frequent appointments would help. That maybe therapy was a case of, "The food is terrible and there's not enough of it," but then again maybe the food wouldn't taste so awful with another therapist. Then I pointed out that her email said she didn't have appointments available "for me." That lit her up. It was like I could see the adrenaline flowing to her head. She got very snappy and said I was mired in semantics. Then she said "What you're hearing is frustration from me because you've violated my boundaries. You don't need to know what my other appointment spaces are reserved for." The session went downhill from there. I left sobbing. So glad to be rid of that albatross. Worst... Session... Ever...
Wow! She said you violated her boundaries by telling her the email said there were no appointment spaces for you? How did she manage to twist that into a demand to know what her appointment spaces were reserved for? I mean, yeah, if you asked her what her appointment spaces were for, then she would be justified in saying it was a boundary violation. But for her to read something into what you said, and then get frustrated and blame you for doing something you didn't do...
Man... I am SO thankful for my T. There are truly some hideous T's out there.
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Conversation with my therapist:

Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here."
Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here."
(Pause)
Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?"
Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall."

It's official. I can even make therapists crazy.
Thanks for this!
Snuffleupagus