I think heckler has it about right. I was expressing insecurity by focusing on those 2 words--presuming I wasn't a priority, but no I wasn't asking her what her other appts were for. Just normal low self esteem stuff. I think she was just already sensitized by my criticism of her. We had a really rocky relationship. I remember telling her once that I felt bad that I'd disappointed her. She said everyone has to deal with disappointing others. "For instance," she said, "I've sat here for months listening to how disappointing I am to you, and I've handled it fine."

Yup, she did a top notch job.