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Originally Posted by hankster
She probably deals with it a lot! Sorry to be snarky, but wow! She tries to sneak a lie past you, then cries foul when you (innocently enough) catch her? REALLY defensive! Those aren't "boundaries"! At least when my T gets defensive, he knows he better admit it and be prepared to get laughed at! Altho since joining PC, I HAVE become a kinder, gentler hankster...
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Snark away! It's been really cleansing to write out some of these experiences I had with exT and get some affirmation that she was off base. In that room it was always my fault, my skewed perceptions--like I was doing therapy by myself with a mannequin (or a wire mother
) or something--very alienating and isolating. I wish I'd found PC while I was going through it. I might not have stayed in the relationship as long as did, but if you wish in one hand...
Checking my experiences against others' has been really healing--not to mention getting affirmation from my current T which I imagine is kinda dicey for her since exT is a colleague of hers that she works with on a regular basis.
Big gratitude for this forum.