I'm not very good at expressing my feelings in therapy though I can show my anger at my H very well, LOL. The one time in therapy I remember getting angry was when I couldn't or wouldn't talk so my T gave me some paper and markers/crayons. That's when I scribbled my anger in red over the entire paper. I colored on another sheet of paper and tore it up into tiny pieces. My T put the pieces into my file.

She would be okay if I were angry and showed it in words too. I'm confident that she would know how to calm me down but she herself wouldn't get angry.

If you're angry your T will want to know why but unless you are a danger to her or to yourself, she will let you express it.