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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
The quote above says, The road to discovering what you really need from your therapist begins by exploring the intensity of your reactions when you don't get what you ask for from your therapist.
and that's what I guess I need to talk to her about now. Not that she forgot - anyone can forget, I surely forget things - but how this particular forgetting comes across to me, and (ulp) why it does.
is that right? it won't be easy for me.
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no, it won't be, but you are still BRAVE, braver than me who can never imagine causing any sort of conflict with my T, or ask for any *needs* be met. i'd rather go to the gyno!
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Originally Posted by earthmamma
I think a lot of it is at an unconscious level. No "sorry that's ok" moments,. More a repressing of rage/anger. Like biting an empty breast.
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hahahaha!! what an image that created for me.
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
it's not what the forgetting means - sometimes a cigar is just a cigar y'know... who said that, George Burns? it's the whole thing about asking.
the "Oh No T, Forget It, No Problem, Pardon Me For Asking" thing.
gee, a gen you wine insight. well, miracles do happen! |
i had to read this like 3 times before i understood.
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Originally Posted by critterlady
I don't think I've ever asked my Ts for anything.
I just wish for things and they're supposed to read my mind. Yeah, there's more than 1 reason I'm in therapy...
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me either. my T has told me i could call her whenever (multiple times), and that its easy because i will just leave a message and then she'll call me back when she cans. So she gave me an out that way--i've done it about 8 to 10 times in 4 years. But other than that...nothing. I shouldn't have to need anything from her anyway, right? i just need her to listen and provide feedback. and if she wasn't then she'd be an awful therapist and i wouldnt be there