Here's an interesting twist. do "you" have erotic or eroticized transference?

Erotic and eroticized transference--A self psychology perspective.
By Trop, Jeffrey L.
Psychoanalytic Psychology, Vol 5(3), 1988, 269-284.
Abstract
The purpose of this article is to elucidate the contributions of self psychology to the understanding of the erotic and eroticized transference. Aspects of two cases are discussed (24- and 32-yr-old women), which illustrate the differences between these two transference configurations. Eroticized transference emerges when selfobject longings for mirroring are eroticized. Self-esteem in these patients is defensively structured around a capacity to engender sexual excitement in another person. The interpretive process should reflect an awareness of sexuality as a defensive substitute for other selfobject longings and a genetic understanding of the specific absence of responsiveness to other aspects of the self. Erotic transference emerges in a very different manner. These patients begin to develop sexual feelings for the therapist as a revived longing for a response to the sexual aspect of the self. It is an attempt to resume a normal developmental pathway and consolidate a sexual sense of self. The family background of these patients reflects an absence of affirming responses in regard to physical qualities and sexuality. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2011 APA, all rights reserved)
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Types of sexualized transference.

The term sexualized transference is often used as the most general term and encompasses at least two more specific experiences, erotic and eroticized transference. Differentiating between the two types of sexualized transference is important because the intensity, the underlying motivation, and the appropriate interventions are different.

Erotic transference.

The term erotic transference is generally reserved for positive transferences accompanied by sexual fantasies that the patient understands to be unrealistic.7 This transference does not interfere with the patient's goal to gain insight and mature attachments.

Eroticized transference.

Eroticized transference is an intense, vivid, irrational erotic preoccupation with the therapist characterized by overt, seemingly egosyntonic demands for love and sexual fulfillment.1 The patient is unable to focus on developing appropriate insights and attends the sessions for the opportunity to be close to the therapist, with the hope that the therapist will reciprocate love.