Thanks, hanskster. That's very interesting! I'm not sure which I have, maybe a little of both but not exactly. I don't want sex with my T!

The article Velvet posted makes it seem like it's more about love and not sex, and that was "erotic transference". I'm confused. Maybe the semantics and labeling don't matter so much?

What bothers me is that it's my pattern. I thought it was mine alone, not the rest of the world's. I'm half serious here, half joking.