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Originally Posted by FourRedheads
Wintergirl, I've had a few sessions like this that are frustrating. I have a lot I needto share but I don't know how or if I can tell, and I get the sense from T that I need to keep things light. But I don't know if that's MY stuff or if T really does not want me to say anything.
Our sessions are mostly T asking me questions and me answering and the stupid chit chat stuff. Is that normal? Maybe I'm expecting too much? This is so confusing.
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My T follows wherever I lead. When I feel like I want to keep things light, he's right there with me. Even if I secretly want to talk about something hard. Last time I went in and said "I have a list with 3 things I need to talk about. I don't want to talk about them". He, of course, did not push and we didn't talk about the list. I have realized that I need to be the one to put my needs out there. He will do his T thing and follow me right into the hard stuff.
Of course understanding this &
managing to do this are two different things.
I'm still learning...