I both wish and don't wish that my T's would be forthcoming about my flaws. I mean, I'd like to know what they are...however I am fairly certain that I would get defensive and upset when told.
I had a (not very good) T awhile ago. If I told a funny story and then laughed she would laugh with me but always laugh just a second too late. I could tell that her laughter was at least partially fake. I feel like fake laughter is so much worse than no laughter.
I suppose I wouldn't feel comfortable opening up to my T unless I felt like she liked me. Or maybe I would withhold things that I would know that she wouldn't approve of.
I like to have the emotional support. Part of me wishes for a completely analytical T - one that would systematically and scientifically approach my negative behavior patterns with me, analyze the causes, and help me fix them. Like if she and I were discussing another person - perhaps I'd get her expertise, she'd be forthcoming with her thoughts, and there wouldn't be so much cocoon fluff.
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