Granite, I have been angry at my T once and expressed it. I was mad about the way he acted in a couples session, which is not how he had told us it would be, and I expressed that to him in a subsequent solo session. He welcomed my anger. It was absolutely no problem at all! He could totally handle it and it led to better communication between us and some changes. I remember at the end he said something like the most important thing for me that day had been to express my anger and I had. He was really good with it all! I think I realized even more that I am the one with the problem about anger, not T. He can handle it just fine. It's I who can't.

I think Ts really are trained to deal with client anger, granite, so probably your T would know just what to do if you expressed some anger. She might be able to make it easier or feel safer. Can you talk to her about it? Of course, I would think there would be boundaries such as no physical violence.