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Originally Posted by shezbut
Love does take work. Even still, it does go through phases of ups and downs. The healthy thing to do is remind yourselves of the love and commitment.
Being dishonest with one another doesn't help the situation ~ it only complicates things further. I'd recommend being more honest with one another. Sex would be better for you if ____, how could you help sex improve for him/her? Work together.
It takes time. But if both of you are willing to watch porn or sex chat rooms, you both have interest and the extra time to devote to your sex lives. Be gently honest with one another, not accusatory. Things are likely to improve a lot with just one or two open discussions with one another!
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Thank you.
Yes, logical brain knows these things. Even knows some of the tools needed.
The non-accusatory part is hard ... for both of us [thanks moms :| ].
Yes, being dishonest doesn't help. For me it is the surfing news/politics & porn. For her it is surfing news/politics and sex chat rooms - including staying up late or to chat w/her ex (he was the M to her S).
Other problem is when being honest, it helps for the truth to be accepted. I got to the point where I couldn't keep myself from laughing when asked/accused about sexting and/or cheating.
Getting it "on paper" helps. Thanks.