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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
Okay, I have been thinking about this weird mental exercise my T suggested. We were discussing how I was never comforted as a child. I told him about waking up shrieking from a bad dream and my dad's solution when he came into the room was to swat me really hard so that I would be fully awake, and know it was just a dream. 
So, T suggested that we picture me as a child in my room, sitting on my bed, and that he and I comfort that child. Ummmmmm. He said that he and I were a team and we could work on this together (I had previously said that I wasn't sure how self comforting worked, felt like I just didn't know what or how to do it). He wants he and I to go into the room and sit on the bed with that child in my head, and comfort the child, so the child experiences comfort and not pain or weird, creepy sexual stuff from adults. So, we tried a little, and he told me to picture the child and then he asked me for permission to just enter the room. I was like, "whatever." He actually wants permission to come in the room. So I said ok, but I'm not sure how feel about this exercise.
This just sounds so stupid to me. Am I just being too intellectual and too much of an attorney? Have any of you tried this kind of thing? Isn't it creepy? Does it help? |
Im one of those people that if T asks me to close my eyes and imagine stuff I start giggling like a 5th grader and I think its like the wierdest thing and I peek with one eye.....
but....I know this comes from a place of fear, fear that it will work....fear that maybe my childhood really sucked so bad that I have to fix it now...or fear that T will hurt me while i have my eyes closed. My thing is mostly just paralyzing fear that im gonna get hurt...that im being tricked...that this is a sick game....but Thats
me . It comes out as humor but I feel scared inside...
Im not sure where you feel with this....indifference , but I think it wouldnt hurt to just try it, and see what it does. Even if it seems stupid, your thinking that its silly might be a barrier your putting up for some reason.
Let your T guide you, and see if it works. I agree it sounds kinda creepy...but hopefully maybe u trust your T? if not then this exercise might have to wait till u trust T more.
It seems like you do kind of want to know what this is and if it works, so give it a try, if you try it a couple times and it seems to be going nowhere , tell T and you guys might try something else ...
Hope this helped....I give stupid advice a lot but yeah...hope what I wrote made sense
