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Originally Posted by rainbow8
If your T does IFS then you have nothing to worry about!!! IFS Ts are great!!!! I'm a little prejudiced, of course! You mean he's never discussed parts of the personality with you, and how the Self is supposed to lead all the parts in harmony? Maybe he's read the book, and just dabbles in it.
I'm telling you; it works. I love IFS and wish my T hadn't abandoned it for EMDR. It's not all about holding the parts, though. It's about accepting all parts of yourself without judging them. My T would ask "what does that part need from you?" and often it was the "holding". I wanted her to do it though, and that's why she started holding my hand, Then she gradually and gently led me to "holding my own hand". It's a gentle kind of therapy. You don't HAVE to do it and like it all at once, but it's very powerful. My former T told me that when I switched to my new T. I was surprised that she endorsed it; it was MY idea to find a different kind of therapy, not hers.
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He's primarily a cognitive behaviorist, but I know that's not ALL he does. Early on in therapty, I mentioned that I was quite dissociative, and he's asked a couple of times about shutting down, but I think I resist discussing it enough that he's let it drop. He once said something about "getting rid" of the various separate parts, and although I didn't respond at that exact moment, I told him later about the wide scale panic inside my head. He apologized and indicated that wasn't exactly what he meant and he worried afterward about how he had phrased it, but I seemed so calm, he let it drop. He indicated that therapy for dissociation was really about accepting and not judging, and generally, there was some integration just as a result of that.
He did discuss the "self" and harmony and all of that near the beginning of therapy. I've had so much going on in my life since I started therapy: marital issues, my dad's heart attack, cancer diagnosis and death, my father in law's illness and death. It's been kind of non-stop crisis after crisis since my depression lifted. So, we were generally dealing with whatever crappy thing was happening in my life, and we never got back to discussing the "parts" issue.
Still not sure that I am comfortable with this idea. I looked at the website PreacherHeckler posted (thank you!) and the first five of the "domains" under rejection and disconnection apply.
Apparently, the whole overvigilance and inhibition thing applies also. Double
Just more stuff to think about, I guess.