hi ((((((((((((SAWE)))))))))))

I literally thought you might be dealing with a phobia of driving when I first read your post and you were doing exposure therapy.

I feel more comfortable when I have control of what we talk about in session because I know that I wont be asked to talk about something that I'm not ready to talk about. Often I use my sessions to talk about things that have been happening in my life. It starts out with talking about something that happened in my week and then goes from there. Often it is something that bothered me or I can't stop thinking about. My reactions to what happened gives us something to talk about then we usually end up talking about how my reactions are related to my patterns of interactions. Sometimes I will talk about something that has been bothering me. It ends up going the same way. I will talk about it and then we will see what is being triggered in me. My guess is your T wants you to do something similar. That she isn't looking to pick the topic. What you pick to talk about tells her more about what is going on in your life and how you are responding to things. Your speed at which you bring up challenging topics tells her more.

When you lead the session it doesn't mean that you have to come in with some huge topic and some big insight (though if you have one you can share).

You can also talk to her about how it is hard for you to take the lead in therapy. That is an important topic too.

I hope this works out for you.