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Originally Posted by student646
In general, flattery will get you everywhere with me. So I always initially believe the compliments that my T gives me, but I have to wonder how genuine they are.
I mean, I don't believe that she is saying things that are outright false but I would imagine that T's probably give compliments a lot. I am wondering how often she says these things to everyone else.
It reminds me of when I was a server - I would get customers to like me by giving compliments right off the bat. I wasn't lying, but I wouldn't really call them genuine compliments.
This is a new T. I wonder if she tells all her clients that they are smart, creative, etc...
Has anyone wondered this? What do you think about it?
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I doubt your t tells everyone they are smart and creative. I think you're right she's not saying things that are false- part of their job is being genuine, isn't it? But it's a funny coincidence for me that you posted this thread 'cuz I came on to post a thread on this topic too. I felt/feel like my t was really piling it higher and deeper this session. Like you, I believe it at first. I even feel like it's a little insulting to the t to suggest s/he isn't genuine. I gobble up the compliments, but, OTOH, my t's efforts to increase my confidence or trust in him make me nervous. IDK, it's so complicated to understand. Think I'll start another thread so I don't hijack yours with my issues too much. But I expect if your t said you're smart and creative it's because you are.